Losing Mum and Pup: A Memoir Review
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. I am okay with the fact that he is still clearly not at peace with his parents despite his protestations to the contrary. The entire existence of the book indicates a lack of peace. But I'm fine with this! Where would we be memoir-wise if we only wrote when totally at peace? We'd have so little to read. What worked: he doesn't hold back. (Oh sure, he holds back on his personal life and his suspect relationships with his lovers/wife and children, but I suppose that is outside of the scope of this book. He can write those books later! Seriously.) He's quite the enjoyable narrator--funny, self-deprecating, and to the point.
What's a little painful: constant reference to "Mum" and to "Pup." For reals? Can we get some evidence to the fact that this is how he daily referred to his mom and dad? If so, fine. Unbelievably pretentious and painful, but at least he's just being accurate. The two too many references to the "Lion of the Right" doing some mundane or humiliating action. We get it. He's a titan in your eyes, and should be in ours. Glad "Christo" wrote this. Really helped me see that not all is what it appears to be. The limelight marriages are often not the perfect connections the media make them out to be. The "greats" are often terribly flawed and sadly prove to be inadequate role models, even and especially for their own children.
Losing Mum and Pup: A Memoir Overview
In twelve months between 2007 and 2008, Christopher Buckley coped with the passing of his father, William F. Buckley, the father of the modern conservative movement, and his mother, Patricia Taylor Buckley, one of New York's most glamorous and colorful socialites. He was their only child and their relationship was close and complicated. Writes Buckley: "They were not - with respect to every other set of loving, wonderful parents in the world - your typical mom and dad."
As Buckley tells the story of their final year together, he takes readers on a surprisingly entertaining tour through hospitals, funeral homes, and memorial services, capturing the heartbreaking and disorienting feeling of becoming a 55-year-old orphan. Buckley maintains his sense of humor by recalling the words of Oscar Wilde: "To lose one parent may be regarded as a misfortune. To lose both looks like carelessness."
Just as Calvin Trillin and Joan Didion gave readers solace and insight into the experience of losing a spouse,
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Gone but not forgotten - William Whipple III - Middletown, Delaware
Christopher Buckley is the only son of Conservative icon William F. Buckley and socialite Patricia Taylor Buckley, and he lost both of them within the space of about a year - thus "becoming an orphan" at the age of 55.
The author writes of what he thought and experienced during this period, including many flashbacks to earlier points in the family history. It is an eloquently written account, with no false sentimentality and many memorable anecdotes.
With so many references to family friends in high places, however, it rather seems Buckley is name-dropping. Also, some of the humor and literary references seem overdone. I found myself wondering whether he was avoiding deeper issues, such as the feeling of being outshone by his famous father, which he would just as soon not delve into.
A realistic look at losing flawed, but wonderful people - N. Andrews - USA
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Not everyone is able to come to terms with the truth of who their parents were so soon after their deaths. I appreciate that the "sinner" in life is not viewed as a "saint" in death. I think it was a truthful tribute and hopefully helped the author get through the difficult time.
Sad and fascinating - a reader - USA
First of all, I am adding an extra star to counteract the petty commentators on here who indulge in ad hominem attacks against the author or drag their own irrelevant politics into their reviews.
I watched Firing Line and read National Review for years. I am a fan of William F.Buckley and do not think any of his conservative successors hold a candle to him. He did not have to indulge in yelling or name calling to get his point across, but always drew upon reason and knowledge of his subject matter. I wish the younger version of him were still around to bring some reason into our current political discourse.
As far as the memoir goes, I pretty much assumed it was a cathartic exercise for son Christopher. I do think there is some bitterness about being neglected by two very busy parents who were mostly into their own lives and not that of being parents. I know many parents like this; it's not unusual. Meanwhile, I have read some of Christopher's novels and don't think this memoir is up to his usual style. But he is a humorist, and of course this is a rather somber topic. I enjoyed most his reminiscences about sailing with his father. I wish there were a little more of this kind of thing in the book. But as someone who has lost both his parents, I can commiserate with so much of what he went through.
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